Monday, February 15, 2016

The Latent Power of Risk in Transitions


“For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12 NKJV
 
Why do people go to the circus? To eat peanuts and popcorn? Although those tastes and smells will always pleasantly associate with it, we don't go for that. We go for the thrills. We pay good money to watch the man let go of the trapeze bar, not hang on to it. We pay to see him hanging in midair so we can see what happens next.                   

  Transition is a wonderful, scary and inevitable occurrence in our human existence. Change is normal, although we never get used to it. And when the transitions are momentous enough, we wind up wearing them like a tattoo on our forearms, or like a scar. We will frequently touch those places and remember.

  Every transitional episode is unique; no two are remotely alike, except that we remember the swirl of unknowing that experienced because we didn't know what was on the other side of the transition. On the front end of the transition we know that our world was going to be rearranged in a way that would make it recognizable but different.

  And there's no guarantee that you'll be a better person because of the transition. If you want to transition gracefully and optimally, they usually require your utmost concentration and cooperation. To miss the lessons latent in the transition could result in taking another lap around the same track. Stay focused or it could hurt.

  The above scripture passage is a statement by the writer to establish the fact that we need to listen. However, in our 21st Century frame of mind, we get the mistaken impression that this verse is referring to the authority of scripture and how we need to pay attention to scripture and let it speak authoritatively to our lives. But we've become so historically distanced from the original writing that we forget that the only scripture that existed was the Old Testament. In fact the writer is, in his teaching advancing the cause of Christianity by building a type of bridge from the Old Testament, and giving his hearers (not readers) something that will allow them to make a more grace-ful transition into a full blown embrace of the New Covenant. And the 'word of God' that's being referred to is not a what but a who. The word of God is Jesus Himself, not a body of writing. To frame it correctly, listen to Martin Luther, who said that "The Bible is the manger in which the Word of God was laid."

  What this implies, is that following Jesus is relationally-driven, not principle-driven. When Jesus said to follow him, I bet that he meant it quite literally! And while scripture is so vital in understanding what it means to follow him, it doesn't cover all the bases with regard to the minutiae of our lives. It doesn't explain what what we're supposed to do when we grown up, or who we're supposed to marry, or even which socks to wear on Friday(if any at all). To 'fill in the blanks' between what scripture tells us and what it doesn't tell us, we need to be in vital and intimate communication with the Word of God.

  If it were as easy as it sounds everyone would do it. Because God so seldom speaks audibly (like almost never) we have to learn how to 'hear' His voice. And, when we're in a major transition, we find ourselves in a kind of brand new crash course of discernment.

  Let me relate an epic transition in my own life. Its duration was approximately 8 months in duration. I was living in Kansas City. I had been the senior leader in a mid town church that my wife and I helped to build from scratch. When I graduated from Seminary I became the senior leader and had a wonderful time serving the congregation. At the end of those six years we felt a definite call to take care of my wife's aged parents, who lived in California. She was their only child and we felt strongly that we were supposed to do that when the time came. We actually made a promise to them when we were first married. So when that call came we knew that a big transition was in the offing. We wanted to do this right, because there was more to the story than just us and her parents.

  We spent several months making sure we carefully communicated this new 'call' to our church family back in Kansas City. We started by asking a few choice people to discreetly pray with us, asking God to confirm this call, and for a grace that would go before us as we let wider levels of our church leadership in on this move. By the time I announced this news to the whole congregation, the ground had been laid with key prayer partners, senior leadership, church board, and finally with the whole church family on a Sunday morning in the beginning of May. By this time, almost no one was surprised or shocked, so I felt like I did a great job in bringing my church along in the transition. We resigned with blessing and their hearty approval. They didn't want us to go, but they completely understood the mission we had.

  The next step in the process was to put our house on the market and sell it. After all, the Lord told us to sell our house and move to California (remember that line for later). So we listed our house with a friend who is an excellent realtor, and we waited. We also started to stage our belongings in preparations for moving. Our car lost its spot in the garage and the garage became our storage unit for the various things that we already boxed up.

  And we waited. Nothing happened. The house showed nicely, but no offers were forthcoming. We were a bit disappointed, but figured that this is part of the process. Things of this magnitude didn't always work out on your schedule and according to your definition of convenience. May quickly turned into June. I no longer had a paycheck. Right then some friends of ours, proposed that I do some construction projects on their vintage house in the Valentine District. So I didn't think it would hurt to take on some small projects to fill the time and to have some income while we waited for the house to sell.

  The first project was a back deck. I'd never built one before, but I figured it couldn't be that hard. So I took measurements, bought the materials and built the deck. And, for the most part, the deck was a huge success! I felt quite accomplished.

  But the house didn't sell by the end of the deck. Hmmmmm. We thought for sure the house should have sold by then, but hadn't. Our friends found other work. This time I actually 'hired' my wife to help with demolition and clean up. This project was much more ambitious. It involved painting, restoring the dilapidated staircase and completely refinishing the downstairs wooden floors. This job lasted several weeks and was rewarding and it looked great. In addition, I re-tiled and grouted the downstairs fireplace, kind of like lipstick on the makeover. Everything looked wonderful and I was quite proud of myself. And the income, while we were in transition, kept rolling in. Now we were into July. The bills were paid, food was on the table and life was good.

  But no sale on the house. In fact, the potential buyers were drying up. We were hardly getting any foot traffic any more. Our realtor assured us that our house was a good house, in a good neighborhood, at a good price. We just scratched out heads. We prayed a little complainingly: God, we thought you told us to move? What's going on? Our friends, who liked my work, suggested that we take on one more project. This time I would act as a sort-of general contractor, because it required more expertise than I possessed. I was to enclose a long-neglected sun porch that had completely fallen into disrepair. And, instead of screens, I was going to make it into a beautiful indoor sun room and panel the windows with glass panes. It would made a lovely addition to the house and preserve the vintage look and feel of the house.

  For this I actually had to get permission from the city fathers. Since this was an historical neighborhood, the powers-that-be were particular about any changes that occurred that might detract from the vintage lines and appearances. I explained what I wanted to do downtown, and I answered their questions about the construction. I guess whatever I said made them happy, because the project was approved.

  This project was more of a professionally executed one, rather than a glorified DIY'er. For it I brought in a framing carpenter, a professional electrician, and a landscaper. There was no plumbing on the inside of the structure but there was a need to address a drainage issue in the yard adjacent to the structure which was causing water to seep in through the basement wall. Nice big 24" X 48" glass panels were installed. In all there 9 panels, three on each side of the structure. Lots and lots of light now poured into the soon-to-be sun room. I sheet rocked and taped and mudded and sanded and painted the ceiling and the walls. I put ceramic tiles on the floor. The electrician also installed some lovely recessed lights in the space for evening use. At the end of the project I surveyed it with a sense of satisfaction and pride. I'd turned something that was useless and an eyesore into something beautiful as well as functional. And the owners, my friends, were very pleased. When they had to sell their lovely home years later, because of a new job in another part of the country, that little room contributed to an easier home sale in Kansas City.

  By now it was getting into late September and my wife, Fatima, and I were really wondering what was going on. Had we understood God's voice? Did he really give us the green light to move to California? Had we missed anything, like a crucial piece of the puzzle or a clue that might have kept this prolonged transition from happening?

  That is the nature of the beast, these significant transitions. They are an experience all to their own. No two are alike. Each has their own unique characteristics and ways of unfolding and evolving. You can't buy a 'transition kit' on Ebay or Amazon. Neither can you make them happen faster that they should happen, at least not without doing damage, and perhaps irreparable harm to yourself, your dreams, your goals, in the process. Maybe the best human analogy is that of a pregnancy. You don't usually decided when the baby comes out. To be sure, science knows the approximate number of days and weeks necessary for the proper gestation of the infant developing in the womb. They can take ultrasounds and see what's going on inside. They can sample amniotic fluid to determine or anticipate issues arising in the pregnancy. But they still can't tell you the day of the delivery. They certainly can't tell you where you'll be or what you'll be doing. The best they can do is tell you to be prepared and to stay healthy. Ultimately the baby comes when the baby comes.

  Transitions are processes, like pregnancies, that have a life of their own. We can't make anything happen. We can only stay mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy in the period and be ready. We can say things about the general nature of transitions, but we cannot speak with certainty to the particular nature and timing(s) of each individual one.

  So we are really becoming concerned. We were SURE we were following the Holy Spirit's leading. We were making preparations. We were ready. We felt kind of like a rifle marksman on the shooting range, under command not to fire until given the order. "Ready . . . . aim . . . . aim . . . . . ready . . . . . aim. . . . . When was the order going to come to 'pull the trigger' on this move?

  Then, one morning in very late September, I was praying about this whole thing. While I was processing this before the Lord, a Bible story jumped into my head: it was the story of the transition of the Israelites from the wilderness to their promised land. Thy the story can be found in Joshua, chapter 3. God gave instructions about how to proceed across the Jordan River, which, by the way, was overflowing its banks at flood stage. God instructed them how to line up, and which groups went in what order. At the head of the procession were the priests, carrying the ark of the covenant. They were going to be the first in the water. We have a tendency to see this story through the lens of history and not faith. What I mean is, we tend to lose a sense of real appreciation for what these people were being asked to do.

  They didn't have a bridge to walk across. They were going to walk through it. Granted, they'd done something similar at the Red Sea. But not these people in particular. It was their parents and grandparents who had walked across the floor of the Red Sea as if it were dry land. This was going to be a brand new experience for this generation. And while it had to have helped to know and remember the story their parents and grandparents told them about the crossing, it was not the same thing as doing it for themselves. To top it off, the river was in flood stage, which mean lots of extra water was coursing in the normally manageable channel. But they were determined to follow Joshua. They seemed to have a collective resolve not to mess this one up. Whatever God told them to do they were going to do it, even though the only instructions God gave them was to start walking toward the river.

  Of course what happened was miraculous. 14 So when the people broke camp to cross the Jordan, the priests carrying the ark of the covenant went ahead of them. 15 Now the Jordan is at flood stage all during harvest. Yet as soon as the priests who carried the ark reached the Jordan and their feet touched the water’s edge, 16 the water from upstream stopped flowing. It piled up in a heap a great distance away, at a town called Adam in the vicinity of Zarethan, while the water flowing down to the Sea of the Arabah (that is, the Dead Sea) was completely cut off. So the people crossed over opposite Jericho. 17 The priests who carried the ark of the covenant of the Lord stopped in the middle of the Jordan and stood on dry ground, while all Israel passed by until the whole nation had completed the crossing on dry ground.

  They walked in obedience and God provided the miracle. The same thing that happened for previous generations, God did again, this time at the entryway to their promised land. Anyway, this story, as I mentioned, jumped into my head. I was fixed on the part where it said soon as the priests who carried the ark reached the Jordan and their feet touched the water’s edge, 16 the water from upstream stopped flowing. This seemed to be a holy moment. There was something about the story that was having a ripple effect in our processing of this whole move. Could it be that God was telling us something by highlighting this story. Sure enough I sensed the Holy Spirit speaking to my spirit. He seemed to be saying, I didn't tell you to wait until you sell the house. I told you to move to California. To be sure, selling the house was important, but moving to California was the main thing.

  Really? Could this be the answer to the question, the piece to the puzzle to key to the map? I have to admit, I was pretty stirred up by this. I prayerfully shared with Fatima what I thought God might be saying to us. She didn't laugh or dismiss it as a figment of my imagination. After praying about it, we both concluded that this story was being commandeered to help us with our story. We resolved together that if our house did not sell by the end of September, then we were simply going to move and leave the house unsold. This was not formulaic or a kit we purchased from the Home Depot. This seemed to be a genuine, supernatural case of God's guidance and instruction, albeit an 'adapted screenplay' borrowed from the Good Book.

  We called the moving Van that we had contracted way back in June after getting numerous bids. We told them we were ready to move and that the 15th of October would be a perfect time to load out household effects and make the trip to CA. So we were definitely moving. Our house was not sold. We were going to move in faith that God had spoken.

  A funny thing happened right then and there. Less than a week passed after we both had resolved to move now rather than wait for the house to sell, after we decided, with God's help, to make this lead of faith and simply start 'marching toward the river'. Within that week somebody came, looked at the house, fell in love with it, made an acceptable offer and bought our house! Lucky coincidence? I think not! It indeed seems that, as soon as our feet touched the water, God performed the miracle. We loaded the moving van, said our goodbyes to friends and neighbors and headed down the road in our car. By the way, I failed to mention that, in this process, we were able to purchase a new-to-us car that had no rust/cancer that was endemic of a Kansas City car. We were driving out in a beautiful new-ish vehicle. And the best thing was that it was paid for in cash from working all summer on our friends' house, waiting for God to make this transition happen.

  We pulled on to Highway 101 two days before Halloween. We arrived in our new geographical home a half hour later. The next day we signed the sale papers on the house with the help of a local realtor and a state of the art fax machine. On to this new adventure that lay ahead of us. We had no more idea what lay ahead in this new season than we did in the previous one. We only knew that we walked with a gracious and faithful Friend who had every intention of seeing that we got to where we were supposed to go and do what we were supposed to do, for as long as we were supposed to do it. That is, until the next transition comes.

  As a result of allowing this transition to unfold and evolve the way it did, our faith was strengthened and our trust deepened. I write here now, poised at the brink of yet another significant transition, a really consequential transition. I don't know how its going to work out. The only thing I do know is that it will have a life of its own, that I can't buy a kit from the store, and that I must stay spiritually and emotionally healthy while this 'baby' is delivered. And I am ready to 'walk into the water' or 'let go of the bar'. I know there's something on the other side of this river, there's going to be something to grab on to that's solid and rewarding.

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